7 Tips About Verbalization

As a spiritually centered person, I make it a point to carry out my business activities with integrity and ethics at the forefront of my mind. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the same way! I have run across some pretty unethical business practices and derogatory speech in the construction industry, which has prompted me to write this article.

The funny thing about a word is that once it is said, it cannot be taken back. Words are like arrows shot from a bow. Once you release the arrow, you never really know where it will land. This depends on the angle it was aimed and the velocity at which it was released. In fact, Psalms 64:3 states “Who have sharpened their tongue like a sword. They aimed bitter speech as their arrow,”. To me, that pretty much says it all. The tongue has been “sharpened” like a sword, ready to pierce something.


Words are simply a bunch of letters arranged in such a fashion that they make sounds. Yet, they can be some of the most uplifting or de-motivating tools ever put into use. The question in my mind is: Why speak if it is negative?

Remember that your speech should have the intent of:

  • Help the one you are speaking about
  • Help someone victimized by the person or to prevent others from being victimized
  • Resolve major disputes
  • Help others refrain from improper behavior

Your verbalization of others should be contingent upon:

  1. The information being accurate; based on first-hand information and careful investigation. You must have seen the person’s behavior yourself. The only time that one can repeat second-hand information is to protect someone from potential harm. Even then, it is necessary to state that you are giving over second-hand information.
  2. The situation is well understood. Any possibilities to judge the person favorably have been explored.
  3. All other options were tried. If there is any other way to achieve the desired result, without giving over the negative information, then one may not relay the negative information.
  4. You tried to speak to the person yourself, before speaking about him/her. Note: This condition does not apply if speaking to the person yourself will make it impossible to achieve the desired result.
  5. Your intent is truly genuine, with no ulterior motive and no ego involved. You do not harbor a resentment against this person or have any reason to take pleasure in giving over this negative information.
  6. You will give over the information accurately. No exaggerations can be made nor any altering of the facts. One must also not leave out information that would minimize the severity of the person’s behavior. In addition, one must only say the minimum necessary for the intended purpose, nothing more.
  7. No undue harm will be caused. If the person will receive a severe punishment, one may not relate the incident.

most-common-words-in-english-proverbs-1 If you have ever seen the movie “Bully” and you have an ounce of compassion, then you cried numerous times while watching it. How people can be so cruel with words is beyond my comprehension. Kids are taking their own lives because of words. Businesses are closing because of words.

The tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body. It has the power to heal. It has the power to harm. The tongue is responsible for both our physical and our mental health. The food we eat becomes a part of us, much like the words we utter become a part of someone else.

If we all take care to guard our tongue, we can make the world a better place. We can shine some light and make a difference. Are you truly aware of how powerful your words are?

Christopher Gould – President

Gould Design, Inc.